If you've sat in Church recently, you've probably heard sermons on being a better parent or having a better marriage. There may be classes on how to manage your finances better or on being a better leader. And while these are based on sound, biblical principles, we can mistake Christianity for a self betterment plan. It's at this point that our faith can become nothing but a therapeutic moralistic deism.
What I mean is this, many preachers preach messages that are all about us. We strive to have better lives - to live the American dream in some cases. We want to be successful, heal all of our pains and anxieties and have the best life now. Problem is, God doesn't promise us this. We tend to think if we are just good people and live our lives by a moral code and acknowledge God, we are then Christians. But the bible teaches something else.
Over and over again, Jesus said "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand." Repentance is a change of mind, heart, and direction towards our sin. It is turning away from sin while turning to God. It is then that the Holy Spirit dwells within us as we are made new creations in Christ - forgiven for our sins and made righteous in Christ as we are reconciled to a Holy God. There are no promises of success in life. In fact, the early Christians suffered greatly because of Christ. Jesus told His disciples in the upper room "I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33 ESV)
If we come to Christianity because our lives are falling apart due to divorce, job loss, or sickness, Jesus cares about those things and helps us to deal with them. But there is no promise of a resolution that we want. And if we have not acknowledged our sins before Him, we are still in them and are enemies of God. We come to Him on His terms, not ours.
The danger is a watered down Gospel that is nothing more than the same type of feel good, self help message that gurus the world over are teaching. If the message you are consistently hearing is about a better you and not about reconciliation and submission to a Holy God through Christ Jesus, it may be time to seek God's guidance as to where you should fellowship.